生活隨筆：學(xué)會(huì)釋懷 ，積極面對(duì)人生

　　摘錄：如果你堅(jiān)持沉湎于過(guò)去，我建議你多想想你過(guò)去的成功?；貞涍^(guò)去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會(huì)最終成為的。因此，當(dāng)你集中精力思考成功時(shí)，你也正在創(chuàng)造將來(lái)的成功。

　　生活隨筆：學(xué)會(huì)釋懷 ，積極面對(duì)人生

　　Do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? Everyone does this at some point. However, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.

　　The successful person takes this approach:

　　Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. The strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. You create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.

　　你是否為你曾經(jīng)做過(guò)的事，或失敗的事而對(duì)自己耿耿于懷?每個(gè)人都會(huì)在某種程度上有過(guò)這種經(jīng)歷。然而，如果你想要一種成功而積極的生活，學(xué)會(huì)釋懷過(guò)去，不要為已經(jīng)發(fā)生且無(wú)法改變的過(guò)去而責(zé)備自己，這一點(diǎn)是非常必要的。

　　大凡成功的人都會(huì)采取這種作法：

　　從過(guò)去的錯(cuò)誤中吸取經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)，并為將來(lái)的行為作適當(dāng)?shù)恼{(diào)整。為過(guò)去的行為而責(zé)備自己的這種方式并不能解決任何問(wèn)題，只能挫敗你的自尊心。你因此而制造了一個(gè)惡性循環(huán)，消積的經(jīng)歷和感受并再次被強(qiáng)化，同時(shí)導(dǎo)致了更多的惡性結(jié)果和消積的情感。

　　If you insist on dwelling in the past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes. Visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem. What you think about is what you become. Therefore, when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create future successes.

　　如果你堅(jiān)持沉湎于過(guò)去，我建議你多想想你過(guò)去的成功?；貞涍^(guò)去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會(huì)最終成為的。因此，當(dāng)你集中精力思考成功時(shí)，你也正在創(chuàng)造將來(lái)的成功。

　　When you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and remind yourself: "There is nothing I can do now which will change what happened. I learned a valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time."

　　當(dāng)你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己開(kāi)始沉湎于過(guò)去的消積經(jīng)歷時(shí)，立即停止，并提醒自己：“我現(xiàn)在這么做并不能改變已經(jīng)發(fā)生了的過(guò)去。我從過(guò)去中收獲了寶貴的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，并將會(huì)以更積極地態(tài)度去面對(duì)人生。”

　　Regardless of what you have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.

　　不管你曾做過(guò)什么，有過(guò)何失敗，唯一理智的方式是接受你的過(guò)去，并積極前進(jìn)。